Thursday, March 22, 2012

Just checking In

So, just checking in!  We have got our referral 2weeks ago today.  I still cannot believe it but the reality is starting to sink in....  We will be a family of 6 sometime in the next few weeks.  I am so excited I can hardly stand it.  I am also so nervous I can hardly stand it :):)  The reality, or rather the version I have crafted in my mind, can be a tad overwhelming.  It is just crazy to think that these precious little ones will be joining us soon, especially since we were settling in for such a long wait.  I look at their sweet faces all day and just wonder what they are doing, what they are thinking, if they are healthy and getting enough to eat.  I wonder what people have been telling them.  Do they know their whole life is about to be turned upside down?  I hope they are being prepared, that they have an idea what's coming!

There is so much to do on this side.  We have had to redo the Dossier, with three original copies of everything.  I am so glad to say that it will be mailed out tomorrow.  I cannot believe I did in 2weeks what took me 6 months to do originally.  We are getting rooms ready.  Jack and Luke have moved in together and seem to really like it.  They like it a little better than me, just trying to relax and let them enjoy their time together.  The newness will wear off soon and maybe they will run out of conversation ??  As Luke says,  "I just haf to say somfin" and Jack says, "Mommy, I just have to listen and then I have to say somfin".  Too cute, gotta love it.  I am so glad they have each other.

Jack has been all over the place.  We have had some really great conversations about jealousy, change, and trusting God with it all.  He is such an emotional little guy, really sensitive and intuitive.  He knows big changes are afoot and he is not so sure about the change part.  He really is excited about his new brother and sister, just all too aware that things are about to be really different.  Luke is "just so happy", his words.  He is excited, not really sure of what to think.  I'm not sure if he really has a clue what is in store for him, probably not.  

Kenny and I are so excited, but just exhausted.  We have both been running trying to get everything done.   I am working extra hours to make sure I get my FMLA (approved leave, with benefits) so that doesn't help.  I will be so glad to get the paperwork mailed tomorrow, that will be a huge relief, a big check mark:):)  (and I love to check things off)  We have a group that volunteered to come over next Saturday to paint and get Isaiah and Hope's room done.  So that will be another big relief!!  Just very overwhelmed right now.

I am so READY to go get them, to get them home and start our life with them.  The Ugandan lawyer is filing paperwork this week and when that is complete we will receive a court date.  We will travel over 2 weeks before that court date and be in country for 4-6 weeks if everything goes smoothly.  I am surprised at how hard it is to leave the boys, I mean not really surprised, but it is so very very difficult to think of leaving them here.  There is really no way to take them right now.  They are not allowed to be at the court dates or official meetings so that is a big chunk of time where someone would have to watch them in-country.  I think it will be good to have that time with Hope and Isaiah though, they are going to need all the love and time we can give them.  I really have a peace that it will be the best thing for everyone.  Family will be watching Jack and Luke so they will be well taken care of and I am glad they will have each other.  Waiting on pins and needles for a court date,  hopefully we will know by next week!

All in all we are doing great, just tired :)  But then really, when are mommies and daddies not tired, so goes the life of a parent.  We are beyond thrilled about these new precious babies.  Praying for grace and strength for the journey.  We are praying for the hearts of Hope and Isaiah, that God will begin to knit our hearts together and they will have a peace about joining our family.  I am under no illusions that this will be a quick or easy process.  Their life has been hard and anything but settled and routine.  We have to convince them they are here to stay, that nobody is going anywhere.  Join us as we pray!  More updates to come!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Referral!!!!

Wow!  What a difference a few weeks make!

We have a referral!

We have a little boy 1year old (soon to be 2)  and a little girl 2 years old!!!!

We are over the moon excited, can't wait to lay hands on them!!!!  They are so beautiful and sweet.  I can't post their pictures here but wow.  I keep staring at their little faces ALL DAY LONG.  He has such a puzzled look on his face, like what is going on.  I just want to put a smile on that face.  She has a cute little grin on her face, she might give me a run for my money:)  and her hair!!  So much of it!!   I can't believe that in a few months there will be four little faces at my table.  Life is going to change at the Brown house!

We are waiting for a travel date which might be as soon as a few weeks!  We also have to obtain 3 more original dossiers in a few weeks.  (the paperwork we chased to make this adoption possible, it originally took me months)  We also need shots, a bedroom set up, a car that fits all the kids, and the list goes on and on:)  We have A LOT to do!  Gives me something to do with my nervous energy!

After we get our travel date then Kenny and I will head over for 4-6weeks if everything goes well and smoothly.  The boys will be staying here with family most likely.  That is a big gulp moment for me.  I feel both options could work, but really think their staying here will be the best option.  I cannot imagine being away from the boys that long though..... I can't wait to have that undivided attention with the new "littles" though.....

It is so daunting to really sit and think about bringing these new littles home.  So much in their life is going to change.  I am sure they will be looking at us thinking, well I'm not sure what they will think.  I do know they have had a hard, tumultuous life so far.  I won't be sharing specifics here.  We really need to think through what we will share and what we won't.  Their story is theirs and I want to respect their privacy.  It's funny because when we originally started this process we were thinking babies and now we are bringing home toddlers.  Wild.

I should have a lot more to say in the next few weeks and coming months!  So grateful to God that He has blessed us so richly.  I soooo wanted two little ones and we got them.  I just read back over my last post, what a difference!  I am leaning on Him and His peace right now.  I am jittery, on edge, ready to go right now.  To think of them in such a hard place with little resources drives me a little crazy.  I am already so in love.  I keep looking at my pictures and saying to myself, there you are, that is the hole that has been waiting to be filled by you.

We are still deciding on names.  Right now the little boy is named Staton and the little girl is named Namazi.  Big decision!

So this post is all over the place, just like my brain:)  I am so so thrilled, so so happy.  The boys are excited and trying to process what all this really means.  Luke just says he is "happy".  Jack is excited but more cautious, he has added a new sibling before:)  He had a hard time adjusting the first go round with Luke so it is interesting to watch those wheels turn in his head!

More info to come!